Marriage is Temporary

Marriage is Temporary

This post could basically be summed up in three simple words:

Marriage is temporary!

And I’m not speaking about divorce.

The Bible is clear on this matter.

“And Jesus answering said unto them, Do ye not therefore err, because ye know not the scriptures, neither the power of God? [25] For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven. [26] And as touching the dead, that they rise: have ye not read in the book of Moses, how in the bush God spake unto him, saying, I am the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob? [27] He is not the God of the dead, but the God of the living: ye therefore do greatly err.” – Mark 12:24-27 (KJV)

For some reason, not many people quote this scripture. I guess it’s because we don’t like the idea that relationships as we know them will not be the same in heaven.

Perhaps we focus too much on marriage as a measure of success in life. Defining people in terms of marital status. Judging them by the size of their weddings and/or by their choice of spouse.

We’re putting so much energy and effort into “making it work”. Or at least giving others the impression that it does, only to fool ourselves and those around us. I will let the divorce-rate speak for itself on this matter.

Being married for only two years doesn’t make me an expert. And I will be the first to admit that I still have SO much to learn!

I have, however, had a small revelation on this matter. When I stood before the altar and made a promise to love and to cherish my partner “until death do you part”, I was acknowledging that marriage was temporal.

Even if the storms of life could not separate me from this wonderful man in my life, one thing is inevitable… Death will.

Death will certainly be the final parting of lives.

This doesn’t sound like a very romantic concept until you come to understand that there is “no greater love than to lay down one’s life for a friend.”

Jesus proved this with His life and death, and because He was willing to lay down His life for us, we can live FOREVER.  This is the best “happily ever after” story imaginable…whether you have been happily married in this life or not.

Getting married is not as critical as we would like to believe.

Marriage within the will of God might be one of the greatest blessings in life’s journey… But only on this earth. Marriage also comes with a great responsibility:  we have to take good care of and be worthy helpmates to our life partners so that when the time comes for them to depart for eternity, they will be “returned to Sender” in good condition.

If we truly grasp this simple truth, our spouses will never become our idols.  We will not be tempted to demand that their lives revolve around us, either.  It goes both ways.

Your spouse was born with the sole purpose of living for the glory of God – and so were you!

Are you helping or hindering each other?

God made Eve to be a helpmate to Adam and vice versa.

The most romantic thing you can do is to live your life in such a way that it will draw your spouse closer to God.

We have so much more than this life to live for, but we only have this life to prove it…

I pray that God will not only bless your marriage for your joy and His glory. But also use you to bless your partner “until death do you part.”

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  1. Hi Dorette, such God-inspired, wise words. I met you once and saw you a few times in PE, I am the ST that stayed with Chanel before she moved in with Mia. I would love to hear more about what you do in Asia.

    Under God’s leading I started a ministry for communication impaired adults in Cape Town in 2012 ( and thus realise the road you took is not always easy but definitely worth it!

    May God be with wherever you may go.

    1. Hi, Mascha. It is so nice to hear from you and thank you for your encouraging words.
      At the moment we are teaching and helping out at a local Thai church in Bangkok in our free time. God is faithful and we’ve had a lot of opportunities to share the gospel and make disciples.
      Like you said: ‘not easy but definitely worth it.’
      I’m heading over to your site just now to check it out… will be in touch soon 😉

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